Have you ever been triggered by someone who is confidant, loud, sexy, capable, skilled or successful?

People you don’t like, or things you don’t like in people are actually reflections of yourself, signaling where growth has to happen to create greater ease, ability, happiness and wellbeing. Have you ever been bothered by someone that is cocky and arrogant? Then you want to work on confidence. Is there someone you know that is someone too loud for your taste? Then you likely wish to be able to take up more space than you already do, feel more seen or heard, or express yourself better. Have you ever judged someone else for being too sexual, picked on their appearance, or shamed them for wearing clothing that is too reveling? You likely have blocks accepting your own appearance or sexuality. (Blocks & self rejection on sexuality such as this are the root cause of the mental-emotional stress that disrupts reproductive health, like endometriosis or infertility. Each part of the body has its wisdom).

Ever get annoyed when you see someone with a nice car, successful business or attractive partner and dislike them for no reason? Then you probably want some success or romance for yourself. I know someone who would get raging angry watching ‘idiots on the news’, because deep down they themselves thought they were an idiot for overlooking something so important, despite how intelligent they are. Almost anytime you dislike someone (even something), it’s an indication that they have a character trait (or traits) you need to resolve, unlock or liberate in yourself. There are layers to this. Stay self aware, gentle with yourself, and present to the moment, and you can discover a lot not just about yourself, but about the hidden feelings of people around you. It’s fascinating.

For many of my clients we pinpointed that their lack of confidence and lack of self-expression were the underlying causes for their procrastination, depression and anxiety. Because when the true Self or the Soul wants to come out- there is nothing that’s going to stop it. Remember, mental distress is a symptom, not the problem. The problem is the conditioning and how it limits who you really are. Lack of expression and confidence can also be limiting to ones performance and business, especially if you (or your employees) have innovations or solutions that need to be heard. Sometime, wisdom has a life of its own.

Projection based triggers like this will show up as dislike, judgement, gossip or irritation, and come from disowned or un-integrated part of your self. (Pro tip? If you find a coach, expert or a healer that triggers you- working with them can give you insane results. The only way out is through.)

Have you ever gotten defensive or anxious when someone gives you constructive feedback? Like a manager, parent, client or partner?

Sometimes, this can affect confidence or performance for weeks, making you feel like you’re always dropping the ball. It can be the reason behind procrastination, binges, and substance abuse.

Performance based triggers like this stem from shame, invalidation during childhood, limiting beliefs that are limiting your ability, or an identity tied to achievement. They can also cause anxiety or emotional shutdown. Instead of processing it, you maybe obsess over being “not good enough,” which tanks your confidence (and performance) for days- and can impact the growth of your character as well as your skills and abilities.

Have you ever gotten irritated at service staff, employees, or your kids because they aren’t doing exactly what you want?

Power Triggers like this happen around not being in control, feeling disrespected, and being told “no”. It can lead to controlling behavior, panic, and aggression. This often stems from childhood chaos, lack of boundaries, feeling powerless, trauma, over-controlling outcomes, not feeling safe, and gripping on too hard to the way things ‘should be’, instead of accepting them for what they are and trusting life.

It’s important to remember that while uncomfortable, triggers are pathways, not problems. They are a diagnostic tool. An X-ray. They are indicative of deeper issues brewing underneath. They are important symptoms, but not the cause of your problems. And neither is the person or situation triggering you.(Or the person educating you about them 😝) People, situations, and life are your mirror. It’s important to remember that triggers- like much of life- happen for you, not to you. If you remember this, keep it as a perspective and acknowledge & appreciate its depth, then your path will always, always be smooth for you.

How Inner Freedom Elevates Performance and Heals Mental Health
Here’s the part no one at home or at work wants to say out loud: unresolved triggers don’t just make you reactive — they keep you anxious, emotionally volatile, and quietly miserable, as well as people around you, too. (Do you know how awkward and uncomfortable it is to walk on eggshells and second guess everything someone says?). They are an indication that there are rotten seeds in your subconscious that limit you from elevated states, performance, and joy. A performance trigger can be burying a subconscious belief of ‘I’m not good enough’ so deep, that simply addressing it provides such profound emotional release that you are have inspired creative solutions to all your business problems for days on end, completely solving them all.

Just like when Roger Sperry won a Nobel Prize for his work on left right brain theory when he realized that art and music actually helped the brain do better at logic and reasoning, you need elevated states like joy, peace, ease, and grace to feel & perform at your brightest & finest. Feeling free isn’t just ‘nice to have’, it directly impacts performance and wellbeing.

Triggers are also the quiet voice behind all coping mechanisms and addictions that lead people to numb, suppress, and escape. Working on triggers and unconscious patterns within the framework of my unique methodology is what helped keep my alcoholic, anxious and depressed client happy & sober without medication, when Swiss rehab clinics that cost $200,000 monthly, could not. This work is powerful.

When you resolve your triggers, you don’t just “feel better” — you function better. You become more grounded in your body, elevated in your emotions, freer in your thinking and expression, and sharper in your decision-making, and more stable in how you lead and love. The noise quiets. The self-doubt fades. Emotional regulation becomes your baseline, not your goal. Decisions made from a good place usually lead somewhere good.

And let’s be honest: nobody’s building an empire or seeing God while micromanaging their unprocessed negative emotion. If you want to unlock fulfillment, clarity, and real power — clean up the noise first. Then watch how fast your vision become reality.

As the Buddhists say, “No one should be able to press your buttons, because you shouldn’t have any buttons to press”. This is how you know you are truly whole, happy, high functioning, healthy, balanced, and complete. Your triggers show you where you are not high functioning, not balanced, not emotionally healthy, or free.

Want to look at what is stopping you from being healthier, happier, better performing and more free? Book a Deep Dive with me.